I love my dog more than my fiancé.
This [totally true] joke has been made ever since we started dating. To say I’m obsessed with my dog might be a bit of an understatement. I definitely have more pictures of him on my phone than anyone/anything else. The only reason I have Snapchat is to send pictures of him to my sister. One year for my birthday, my family had a portrait of him commissioned (the cost was a donation to the local animal shelter…we’re not completely insane), and I had a bobble head of him made (ok, so maybe I am that insane). So it comes as a shock to most people that the dog is not invited to the wedding.
I definitely have a necktie for him, which he looks ADORABLE in, and I ogle the puppy ring bearer outfits at Petco. I’ve seen plenty of pictures and videos of dogs involved in weddings, and they are just precious and for a second I think that maybe he should come, but then I remember the 4 very valid reasons I have for not wanting him there:
1) He’s not allowed.
This one’s pretty straightforward. Our venue doesn’t allow dogs (other than service animals of course) in the building. We could’ve found a venue that did allow him, but we didn’t, so there. But even if our venue did allow dogs, I’ve still got other reasons.
2) I don’t want to worry about him on my big day.
My dog likes people. There will be a lot of people at my wedding. Not all people like dogs. My dog also likes to jump on people. Fancy dresses, bare legs, suits and a jumping dog don’t sound like a good mix. My dog also sheds his blonde hair all over dark clothes.
Of course he is also way more popular than either my fiancé or myself so plenty of friends have said that they would volunteer to be his wrangler for the evening. As much as I don’t want to be worrying about him, I don’t want my guests to worry about him. Everyone should be able to relax and have a good time. Also, I don’t want to be competing for attention with my dog on my wedding day!
3) I don’t want him in my pictures.
This may sound weird coming from someone who has thousands of pictures of her dog, but let me explain. I take tons of pictures of him every day, and I enjoy them for a while, but then they end up in the digital collection of photos that I will look back on every once in a while, but not that often. Pictures from my wedding day are going to be the most important ones of my life. They will be framed, hung in prominent places, put into albums, and looked at frequently. So why wouldn’t I want my dog in those pictures?
As much as I pretend he is immortal, the fact is that in a decade, he’s not going to be with me anymore. I get overwhelmed and teary-eyed just thinking about the day he’s going to leave me. So in a decade or so, when I’m looking at my wedding photos, I don’t want my dog to be in those pictures because I don’t want my heart to break every time I look back on the happiest day of my life.
4) I love my dog more than my fiancé.
Yes, it’s a joke, but it’s kind of true. I’ve known my dog longer than I’ve known my fiancé. I’ve lived with my dog longer than I’ve lived with my fiancé. I’ve shared a bed with my dog longer than I’ve shared a bed with my fiancé. I’ve taken more vacations with my dog than with my fiancé. And my dog definitely greets me with more enthusiasm when I get home.
My wedding day needs to be about me and my fiancé, NOT about me, my fiancé, and my dog. Most days I’ll give my dog more attention and affection than I give my man, but on our wedding day he deserves to be the center of my attention (even if it’s only for the one day). I don’t want the love I have for my dog to overshadow the love I have for my husband.
…As soon as we come back from the honeymoon, though, the dog goes back to number 1!