4 Myths (& 1 Truth) About Love From Romeo & Juliet

Happy Valentine’s Day! Did you know that we celebrate St. Valentine’s Day on February 14th because that is the day he was beheaded? So it only seems fitting that “the most romantic story ever told” would end in death.

Last week The Man and I went to go see the opera Romeo & Juliet. I would first like to say that I loved every aspect of the production; the performers were great, the music was gorgeous, the costumes were spectacular, and all the other design and technical elements worked so well together. It was truly a great production, BUT it didn’t make me hate the story any less. It paints an unrealistic and dangerous picture of what love should be.

So here are 4 myths (and 1 truth) about love from Romeo and Juliet.

Myth 1) Love = Drama

It’s partly because I’m a theatre nerd so the people I hang out around are inherently drawn to drama, but insisting that R&J is the “most romantic story of all time” or a “story about true love conquering all”, it makes people feel like they must have a big hurdle to jump over in order to prove their love. There are going to be mundane hurdles like deciding who is going to take out the trash, and slightly bigger hurdles like whose family to visit during the holidays, but if your family and friends don’t like your beau and he’s in a gang, it’s lust, not love and it’s going to end badly.

 

Myth 2) Love = Dying for each other

To quote the new Broadway musical Hamilton, “Dying is easy, living is harder.” I know, they loved each other so much that the thought of living without the other was unbearable. While I absolutely do believe that people can die of a broken heart (depression can ravage your body), killing yourself is another thing entirely. There’s a difference between dying for someone by taking a bullet for them and killing yourself because you don’t want to be alone. Also, he was getting exiled and she didn’t go with him, so the “I can’t bear to be apart from you” seems pretty flimsy.

 

Myth 3) Love = No compromises

If you read anything about relationship/marriage advice, the most important buzzword is “compromise”. The kids in this story compromised nothing, which has a lot to do with why it ends the way it does. Seriously, they both talk about renouncing their family names so they can be together, but neither one of them does. Instead of killing themselves, a grander expression of love would’ve been to tell their families that they got married and then deal with the consequences, but instead she continues living in her parents’ house, he continues running around with his gang of friends. They knew that their families would cut them off, and despite saying that they would run away together, they were both rich kids who wanted to continue their rich kid lifestyle. Neither one of them gave up anything until his best friend and her cousin got killed because of their secret. How long were they planning on keeping their marriage from their families?

 

Myth 4) Love = Lust

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Yeah, that’s “love” in their eyes.

This one is pretty obvious; these two did not have enough time to develop a loving relationship. I do recognize that this is a play so there isn’t enough time to develop a lot of that rapport (although other Shakespearean plays do a better job of it). I also recognize that it was written in a time when people didn’t have multi-year courtships; you met (sometimes), you got engaged, and a week later you were married. Even accepting those things, I cannot get behind the idea that Romeo and Juliet were in love instead of just in lust.

I myself don’t believe in “love at first sight”. I believe in “lust at first sight” and that eventually that can turn into love, but I hardly believe that you can see someone and instantly know they’re your soul mate, but I know there are people out there who do believe in love at first sight, and for them Romeo & Juliet’s first meeting was magical and there’s no doubt that they were meant to be together. Except for the fact that not two seconds earlier, Rosaline was Romeo’s “soul mate”! Going back to point number one, this guy loves drama and only goes after women he can’t have. Rosaline rejected him, so he pined after her, but as soon as he sees another pretty girl at the Capulet ball, he’s instantly moved on. You could argue that he didn’t know Juliet was Capulet’s daughter when he met her, but she was still at the Capulet ball, so it was safe to assume that she was in some way associated with that family, and therefore would be out of reach for him, and once he found out she was Capulet’s daughter, he decided he was going to marry her. This guy has a serious “forbidden fruit” complex going on.

 

Now, being good at arguing means recognizing when the other side has a valid point, so here is the only truth about love that I could gather from Romeo and Juliet:

Truth 1) Love = Commitment

I do have to give it to them; they are committed to each other. When Romeo gets exiled, it would have been really easy for him to just start off fresh and find another girl, especially considering how easily he seems to fall in and out of love with them. And Juliet could’ve easily agreed to marry Paris and kept her lifestyle. They didn’t seem to have a plan for how to get back together again, so why not just move on with their lives? So I have to admit that in that particular regard, it is sweet.

(Although the fact that he’s exiled makes her even more “forbidden” and therefore more appealing to him)

Why my dog isn’t invited to my wedding

I love my dog more than my fiancé.

This [totally true] joke has been made ever since we started dating. To say I’m obsessed with my dog might be a bit of an understatement. I definitely have more pictures of him on my phone than anyone/anything else. The only reason I have Snapchat is to send pictures of him to my sister. One year for my birthday, my family had a portrait of him commissioned (the cost was a donation to the local animal shelter…we’re not completely insane), and I had a bobble head of him made (ok, so maybe I am that insane). So it comes as a shock to most people that the dog is not invited to the wedding.

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What do you mean I’m not invited?!

 

I definitely have a necktie for him, which he looks ADORABLE in, and I ogle the puppy ring bearer outfits at Petco. I’ve seen plenty of pictures and videos of dogs involved in weddings, and they are just precious and for a second I think that maybe he should come, but then I remember the 4 very valid reasons I have for not wanting him there:

 

1) He’s not allowed.

This one’s pretty straightforward. Our venue doesn’t allow dogs (other than service animals of course) in the building. We could’ve found a venue that did allow him, but we didn’t, so there. But even if our venue did allow dogs, I’ve still got other reasons.

 

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How can you not let this face into your building?

2) I don’t want to worry about him on my big day.

My dog likes people. There will be a lot of people at my wedding. Not all people like dogs. My dog also likes to jump on people. Fancy dresses, bare legs, suits and a jumping dog don’t sound like a good mix. My dog also sheds his blonde hair all over dark clothes.

Of course he is also way more popular than either my fiancé or myself so plenty of friends have said that they would volunteer to be his wrangler for the evening. As much as I don’t want to be worrying about him, I don’t want my guests to worry about him. Everyone should be able to relax and have a good time. Also, I don’t want to be competing for attention with my dog on my wedding day!

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He can get very energetic when he’s excited!

 

3) I don’t want him in my pictures.

This may sound weird coming from someone who has thousands of pictures of her dog, but let me explain. I take tons of pictures of him every day, and I enjoy them for a while, but then they end up in the digital collection of photos that I will look back on every once in a while, but not that often. Pictures from my wedding day are going to be the most important ones of my life. They will be framed, hung in prominent places, put into albums, and looked at frequently. So why wouldn’t I want my dog in those pictures?

As much as I pretend he is immortal, the fact is that in a decade, he’s not going to be with me anymore. I get overwhelmed and teary-eyed just thinking about the day he’s going to leave me. So in a decade or so, when I’m looking at my wedding photos, I don’t want my dog to be in those pictures because I don’t want my heart to break every time I look back on the happiest day of my life.

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Our happy family!

 

4) I love my dog more than my fiancé.

Yes, it’s a joke, but it’s kind of true. I’ve known my dog longer than I’ve known my fiancé. I’ve lived with my dog longer than I’ve lived with my fiancé. I’ve shared a bed with my dog longer than I’ve shared a bed with my fiancé. I’ve taken more vacations with my dog than with my fiancé. And my dog definitely greets me with more enthusiasm when I get home.

My wedding day needs to be about me and my fiancé, NOT about me, my fiancé, and my dog. Most days I’ll give my dog more attention and affection than I give my man, but on our wedding day he deserves to be the center of my attention (even if it’s only for the one day). I don’t want the love I have for my dog to overshadow the love I have for my husband.

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My two loves!

 

…As soon as we come back from the honeymoon, though, the dog goes back to number 1!

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This was Boston sitting under my desk as I wrote this post (with his Superman toy)

Lea Salonga

Name: Lea Salonga

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I hope I look this good when I’m 44!  I also hope I get to meet Kermit the Frog!

Fictional: Nope!

Universe: Broadway and Disney

Bio: Lea Salonga became a Broadway star at age 18 when she starred in Miss Saigon in London and on Broadway. She won several awards for her performance, including the Tony award (and the first Asian American to do so). She also performed in both the 10th and 25th anniversary concerts of Les Miserables as Eponine and Fantine respectively. Most people outside of the theatre community probably know her best as the singing voice for both Princess Jasmine and Mulan, for which she was named a Disney Legend in 2011. She is currently starring on Broadway with George Takei and Telly Leung in Allegiance, which will run until February 14th.

Why I have a crush on her:

My two biggest nerd areas are Disney and theatre, and Lea Salonga satisfies both of these.

I’ve been in love with Lea Salonga’s voice for what seems like forever. As with most people, I first heard her when she sang A Whole New World in Aladdin. And then she also got to sing as Mulan. Classic Disney films and animations used to use the same actors for several movies, but the more modern Disney animated films very rarely use the same actor in two different movies, at least not for the lead characters, so I can only imagine how cool it must be to claim credit for TWO Disney Princesses! Growing up I wanted to be a voice over artist badly, and I really wanted to voice a Disney Princess.

And then there’s her theatre resume. She’s played both Eponine and Fantine in Les Miserables; two roles most people would kill to do and she’s done both (and I don’t think she murdered anyone to do them, but I can’t say for sure). She’s also played Grizabella in Cats and Cinderella in the Rogers and Hammerstein show in the Philippines. And of course she starred in Miss Saigon and Flower Drum Song on Broadway.

But here’s the thing I didn’t realize until I recently started following her on Facebook; Lea Salonga is a big ole’ nerd like the rest of us. She certainly has no issues speaking her mind, supporting women’s rights, minority’s rights, and artist’s rights. She also makes Star Wars references and pines over Tom Hiddleston! The more I read about her, the more I love her.

My gosh, #Metalocalypse still kicks major butt!!!

Posted by Lea Salonga on Friday, January 15, 2016

And Lea, if you’re reading this, I have a Mulan poster that Ming Na-Wen signed, and I’d love to add your autograph to it!

Perfect Together: Behind the Scenes

I’ve found that there are two types of people on social media; those who try to present their lives as better than they are, and people who try to present their lives as worse than they are. I think most people fall into the first category (although I may feel that way because I block people who fall into the second category). The point is that although I try not to be obnoxious about it, I certainly do fall into the first category. Life is going great for me right now, and I present it as such on social media, but it’s certainly not perfect. Take an interaction I had with my fiancé this afternoon:

We’ve been living together for several months now, but I still haven’t fully moved in because a friend is renting my house so there wasn’t a big rush for me to move my crap out. Last weekend we finally rented a truck and brought the furniture down. This weekend he stayed home and worked on clearing room in the common areas for my stuff while I went up to my old house to clean up and clear out the “little things” (odds and ends that hadn’t been boxed up yet, but filled up my car two times over).

Out entire house has been overrun with random boxes, bins, and bags of my stuff. There is literally no place to sit except for an office chair in my room and an office chair in his room, which means we have no place to just hang out together. This is what happens when you try and combine two fully furnished houses in to one. Needless to say, getting my room in order is a priority for me, and I’ve been a little stressed out about it.

So The Man, sees me being stressed out and, being the sweet guy that he is, thinks, “She’s super stressed out. I’ll help her by going to the grocery store, which is a chore I know she’s not particularly fond of.” So what he meant to say was, “I will go to the grocery store. Is there anything you need?”

But that’s not what he said. Instead he said, “Why don’t you sit down and make a list and then I’ll go to the grocery store?”

And this is how my sleep-deprived, exhausted, malnourished brain reacted: “Are you freaking kidding me?! He expects me to sit down and plan our meals for the week and make a shopping list? Does he realize how much effort goes in to that? I have spent the past two days loading and unloading my car and running up and down the stairs probably 100 times! There is crap all over our whole house that I have to get to fit in a small guest room while still making it look like a frickin Pinterest masterpiece, and he wants me to think about what food we’ll need this week?! When am I going to have time to cook? He’s going to have to do all the cooking this week because I’ll be spending it cleaning, and if he’s doing all the cooking then why doesn’t he make the list? I wonder what would happen if I hurled this screwdriver at his skull…”

So I snapped at him. I didn’t say everything that had gone through my head in that split-second, but I wasn’t particularly pleasant. Luckily he knows that I tend to be irrational when I’m stressed, and I am self-aware enough to know that as well, so I apologized pretty quickly. A few minutes later when he said he could get ingredients to make ice cream using the ice cream maker his mother got me for my birthday (Yes, I enjoy making ice cream, but you do know how much work goes into making it? It takes like half an hour to make the batter and then it has to chill for a couple hours, not to mention the amount of dishes that are used, and our kitchen is a mess right now so where am I going to do the prep work?  I’ve got lesson plans to write, an IEP to revise and the house looks like a tornado swept through!) I reacted slightly more rationally and told him that just buying ready-made ice cream would be better.

He came back with S’mores ice cream and a bag of my favorite sweet potato chips (which I have eaten the whole thing of while typing this). So in 140 characters on Twitter I might say “My guy got me S’mores ice cream and sweet potato chips! #bestfianceever!”, but just know that we’re still learning to live with each other, and it’s not perfect all the time. But we’re figuring it out!

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What makes it on social media…

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What is really going on.

Resolution Updates: Week 1

First week of the New Year down, and here’s how I’m doing on my January resolutions:

  • Finances – organize and file receipts

I haven’t started a filing system yet, but I have saved my [important] receipts and put them in one place, so that’s a start. My plan is to sit down on Sunday and get my files set up.

  • Housekeeping – put laundry away as soon as it’s done

I was doing pretty well with this when I was doing laundry on the weekend, but then I did a couple loads during the week and they didn’t get finished until the morning and I didn’t have time to put them away before work. They are at least folded in the laundry basket, and they haven’t left the laundry room yet, so at least they haven’t created a pile in the bedroom. I’ll get to them as soon as I’m done typing this.

  • Health – get a primary car physician

Haven’t done this yet, but I was reminded yesterday that I need to. I actually went to get an MRI done (more on that later), and when I was doing the paperwork, the intake worker asked me about my primary care physician, and I proudly told her that it was my goal this month to get one!

  • Fitness – Don’t complain when it’s time to go to the gym

Going back to work and going back to the gym at the same time has made this difficult, but I’ve been ok with this. I have made a point to avoid complaining, although I did cut one of our workouts short, although in my defense we got there late and spent more time on the weights than we had expected, so by the time we were ready to do cardio, it was time for bed, and I do not mess around with bed time. There’s a workout group starting at work, too, so that will help. (Also, my little sister is doing super well with hitting the gym and losing inches, and I will NOT let her look better than me at my wedding!)

So after a week, I haven’t been perfect, but these goals are all about being attainable, and I can definitely complete these by the end of the month.

Mulan

Name: Mulan

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Who is that girl I see, staring straight back at me?

Fictional: Yes (possibly was a real person, but any truth is probably buried in legend at this point)

Universe: Chinese Legend/Disney

Bio: Mulan is a woman from a family with no sons (some stories say she had a brother but that he was very young). When the Chinese Army orders one man from every family to serve, Mulan saves her elderly father’s life by cross dressing and entering the Army in his place.

Why I have a crush on her:

From what I’ve read about the legend of Mulan, this may be the closest Disney has come to staying true to the original story…that has nothing to do with why I have a crush on her, it’s just interesting.

Mulan is the only Disney Princess who isn’t actually a princess. Seriously! All of the other women featured in the Disney Princess brand are royalty either by blood or marriage, but not Mulan. That’s not to say she didn’t EARN her seat at the cool kids’ table. She didn’t defeat one bad guy, she defeated THOUSANDS OF BAD GUYS! All Snow White did was bite an apple.

Mulan also showed strength (mental and physical), ingenuity, courage, and humility; remember when she was offered a job as the Emperor’s right-hand person and she turned it down because she wanted to go back to her family? She didn’t dress like a man, join the army, become the pack leader, start an avalanche that destroyed the 99% of the Hun army, and then storm the palace to defeat the main bad guy and save the emperor because she was ambitious. She did all those things because they were the right things to do (except dressing like a man, which was the only thing she could do in a misogynistic society).

And although she may have had a crush on Shang, and a romantic relationship was hinted at the end of the movie, the plot was not dependent on it, and Mulan was not dependent on him. So for everyone who says that Elsa is the first Disney heroine to not need a man, remember Mulan! (Also, Merida)

Resolutions: Baby Steps

The She-Hulk Diaries (the inspiration for the title of this blog) starts off with Jennifer Walters making her New Year’s Resolutions, except she decides to give herself some extra time and make Valentine’s Day Resolutions. I’m going to follow suit and do something slightly unconventional; I’m going to make monthly resolutions.

New Year’s Resolutions typically fail because people make them too large, and because they’re supposed to last all year, once you miss going to the gym once or have one debaucherous night you think, “Oh well, I screwed that up, I guess I’m going to have to wait until next January 1st to make myself a better person.” Instead of setting myself up for failure, I am going to set myself up for success by resolving to take baby steps to achieve my goals.

There are four areas I want to improve upon: finances, housekeeping, health, and fitness. Each month I will choose one aspect from these areas that I can work to improve, and we’ll see where I am at the end of the year. So here are my January Resolutions.

 

1) Finances – Organize and file receipts

I just bought a new car (yay!) and while cleaning out my old car, I found so many receipts that I had just thrown in there…seriously, there were SOOOOO many! I know I need to get a better handle on all of my receipts to track what I’m spending, where I’m spending it, and what I’m spending it on. Not to mention it will make tax time a lot easier.

2) Housekeeping – Put all laundry away as soon as it’s done

I don’t mind doing laundry, and I LOVE the way it feels and smells straight out of the dryer, but I HATE putting laundry away. It’s not like it takes particularly long to do or that it takes a lot of energy, I just don’t do it. Right now we have piles of clothes on the floor and I can’t tell which are clean and which are dirty, so I just end up rewashing everything (which isn’t good for the clothes, the environment, or my water bill). If I can spend a month putting the laundry away when it’s done, hopefully it will become a habit.

3) Health – Get a Primary Care Physician

This one will make my mother happy. Ever since I outgrew my pediatrician I haven’t had a primary car provider. I’ve always just gone to urgent care when I’ve gotten sick, but I know that I need to take better care of myself, especially since I’m almost 30 and looking to start a family soon. It’s time to start focusing on preventative care instead of just reactive care and getting a regular doctor is the first step.

4) Fitness – Don’t complain when it’s time to go to the gym

The Man and I have been pretty good about getting to the gym regularly, but most of my motivation comes from him dragging me there. Every time he says, “We’ve got to go workout.” I flop on the bed and throw a tantrum like a small child (and he still puts up with me!). I know going to the gym is necessary, and once I’m there I feel better about myself, but if I can have a better attitude about it before we go that would probably motivate me to go more often or go when he’s not there pushing me.

 

So those are my resolutions for January. Baby steps!

C.J. Cregg

Name: Claudia Jean “CJ” Cregg

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Claudia Jean is the Jackal!

Fictional: Unfortunately yes

Universe: The West Wing

Bio: C.J. Cregg begins her career in the Bartlett administration as the Press Secretary, but later goes on to be the President’s Chief of Staff.

Why I have a crush on her:

I’ve recently been binge watching The West Wing, and I have been reminded how much I love Claudia Jean. She’s snarky and quick-witted and she doesn’t take crap from anyone, including the President. She’s also an incredibly real character; she struggles (rather unsuccessfully, in fact) to find a work-life balance, she has complicated romantic relationships, and she can lip-sync with the best of them! My favorite quote from C.J. comes from an interaction she has with Josh in the episode 3.17 The U.S. Poet Laureate

[C.J. is mad at Josh for posting to the message board of a Josh Lyman fan web site]

C.J. Cregg: If they discover you’ve been there, I’m going to shove a motherboard so far up your ass… What?

Josh Lyman: Well… technically, I outrank you.

C.J. Cregg: SO FAR UP YOUR ASS…

Ultimately, it’s her incredible ability to remain (mostly) calm under pressure that makes C.J. Cregg a crush-worthy woman!

Did I get my fiance a sexist present?

When I first started dating The Man, I have to admit that I was a little off put when I went to his house and it seemed like everywhere I turned there was another “hot girl” in the form of scantily clad superheroines. I found the most offense with the DC Bombshell collection he had, not because those girls were the most provocative but because he had spent considerable amount of money on them; it was literal objectification of women.

So for Christmas this year I bought him the Catwoman Bombshell* to add to his collection.

Why on earth would I buy him one of these statues when a year ago I viewed them as instruments of misogyny?

1) I’m more secure in our relationship.

I fight against the idea that women have to fit a certain mold to be socially accepted as beautiful because it’s the right thing to do. I also fight against it because I am insecure that as an overweight woman, I do not fit that mold, and even if/when I lose the weight, I will still never look like these bombshells…no one will. So when I first saw them, my immediate thought was, “Is this what he wants me to look like? He knows that’s never going to happen. Is this his ideal woman?”

A year later, we are engaged and have an awesome and secure relationship. I know he loves me for who I am and my appearance is part of that.

2) He thinks I look like that.

Ok, not entirely (I mean, his vision is bad but it’s not THAT bad), but sometimes he tells me that a statue, picture, or character reminds him of me. I physically do not look like these women, AT ALL, and yet he still finds me attractive. And attractiveness and sexiness isn’t all about appearance. One thing that all these statues exhibit is a confidence in these characters, and confidence is always sexy regardless of physical appearance.

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Are you seeing double?

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I mean we’re practically twins!

3) He admires them.

These statues aren’t designed for men to ogle and jerk-off to; there’s plenty of free stuff on the internet for that. If you spend the kind of money to buy one of these figures, it’s because you genuinely appreciate the art that goes in to the crafting of the characters and the crafting of the statues themselves. The Man doesn’t say, “Look at the hot girls I’ve collected.” Instead he points out the details and explains why he loves the characters.

4) It makes him happy.

That’s what giving is about; making people happy!

Is sexism still an important issue especially in regards to comics? YES! Women are made into secondary characters and sexualized way more than men, and we need to continue to fight for respect and equality, but if I can admire Loki for his charisma and cunning (and looks), then he should be able to admire Catwoman for the same reason.

*This link is to Amazon, but I purchased the statue at our favorite local comic shop.  Support small businesses!

Birthday/Star Wars Recap

Whew!

It has been a whirlwind of a week. Went to see the new Star Wars movie, and I enjoyed it! I had a few issues (mostly the same thing everybody else has said; it might be a bit heavy handed with how much it draws from the original) but overall it was really good!

Then Saturday was my [last of my 20s] birthday! The man got me Disney Infinity with Ahsoka! Anakin was also in the set and he got me Luke and Leia, but AHSOKA IS MY FAVORITE! And my dad got me an RC car since I complained about not getting one in my last post, but he didn’t just get me ANY RC car; he got me Luke’s landspeeder! I also got several Funkos, some Star Wars Covergirl Makeup, a beautiful bracelet, and some wine! I’m really lucky to have an awesome group of friends and loving family!

Ok, enough with the exclamation marks. I’m realizing that the above paragraph makes me seem rather materialistic, and I’m not going to fight that accusation because the fact is that I do have more things than most people probably do, but I honestly wasn’t expecting to be showered with a lot of things for my birthday. All I really wanted was to get to spend quality time with my friends and family, and I got that, too! (Sorry there was another exclamation).

So the man and I spent most of my birthday day getting ready for our Star Wars themed party. When I throw a party, I tend to pick a theme and then come up with a punny menu for it. I read somewhere that you should stop throwing themed parties once you turn 30, so I’ve got one more year! I also found another blog devoted to throwing Star Wars parties, which was awesome (and I used the soda labels). Check them out at Maythefourthbewithyoupartyblog.com

So here was our menu:

The Cantina

  • Lightstirrers (glow sticks as stirrers)
  • Yoda Soda
  • Darth Pop
  • Ahsoda Tano
  • Blue Milk (white Russian with blue food coloring)
  • Han Solo Cups

Darth Meal

  • Bantha Meat (pulled pork)
  • Boba Fettucini
  • Hoth Dogs wrapped in Coruscant Rolls (pigs in a blanket)

Admiral Snackbar

  • Dark Side and Light Side chips (in awesome bowls that we bought at our local comic shop)
  • Chewwie Bars
  • Qui-Gon Gingerbread Cookies
  • Oatmeal Reysin Cookies
  • Han Solo in Carbonite Chocolates
  • Death Star Cake
  • BB-8 and Tie Fighter Cake Balls

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The Yoda Soda and Darth Pop labels are available here.

And my favorite item was the salsa. I couldn’t come up with any puns for it so I wrote “Someone left the 7 Leia Dip on Alderaan…oops! Please enjoy this salsa instead”. It was a lot of fun, and I made cake balls for the first time, which was more successful than I thought it was going to be (and I have some ideas for how to make it better the next time).

The next day, on Sunday, my parents took me out to my favorite seafood buffet! My fiancé and sister, who both dislike seafood, weren’t there so I got to have a date with my parents. Lately I haven’t gotten to spend a lot of time with my parents without everyone else around, so it was kind of nice to get that time with just the three of us.

We celebrated my birthday one last time on Monday when we went to a tasting with our caterer for the wedding. The food was amazing! Although I’m nowhere near ready, July 1st can’t get here soon enough!

I realize I didn’t really air any grievances, but Happy Festivus everyone!